Nothing has to happen . . . my way. Don’t be fooled—this is a deceptively powerful statement. It’s a simple but great truth. Say it aloud. As you hear yourself say the words, you know they are true. The Universe does not revolve around you, not even in the slightest! If all your wants, dreams, and desires were to end because of your sudden death, virtually everything in the world would go on as it had before. That fact doesn’t diminish your importance but rather points out the obvious: what you think needs to or should happen at any moment is nothing more than your personal desire.
At first glance this principle might seem ludicrous. Of course things have to happen. We have to pay our bills, we need to have jobs, we have to spend less than we make. The list goes on. It’s true. We all have responsibilities. However, the key phrase here is—my way—because it’s your need to have things go your way that causes most of your imbalance and suffering.
“Nothing has to happen my way” can help you detach in a thousand different ways. It beckons you to purge the silly human minutia, the comparative judgment, the wishing that things were different from what they are, the rumination about why things weren’t different in the past, and the fearful thinking about what might happen in the future.
This First Principle is a powerful statement that enables you to stand face to face with your humanness and say, “No, I will not let you rule me. No, I will not let my mind assume the worst and create fearful future scenarios. No, I will not focus on what is not working instead of what is. No, I will not keep myself unhappy with unmet expectations, assumptions, and comparative judgments.”
It’s very empowering when nothing has to happen your way for you’re proclaiming you are bigger than anything outside of you that might derail your inner peace. And you are right—you are.
In reality the change that comes your way isn’t stressful, but your resistance to it is. By aligning with what is, you release your resistance to the current reality and are escorted through the door of detachment. As you stop resisting the flow of life, you free yourself to experience greater peace and positivity.
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Living Your Best: A Powerful Blueprint for Personal Transformation is a remarkable pathway to a life of greater happiness and well-being. Based on five core principles, this easy-to-use system will transform your thoughts and behavior so you are consistently at your best. Grounded in wisdom that transcends the ages, the “Five Principles” are universal in their application.
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